I’m writing this minutes after my girls, Zoe and Ziya, left the house again to go on another vacation with their dad and his family. It’s just going to be for a week but I can’t help but feel sad. I miss them already.
Aside from me though, there’s one other person who will miss the girls terribly – their little brother, Ziggy. He’s only three years old and he can’t understand yet why there are instances when he can’t go where the girls go. He doesn’t get it why there are times when it will just be him, me and his dad at home. He’s too young to know that the person he calls “Daddy” is not the same person that the girls call “Daddy”.
Earlier today, before the girls left, I took this photo of my three kiddos. They were already making the most of their last moments together this week. The girls were hugging Ziggy, telling him that they’ll miss him. Ziggy hugged them back and said he’ll miss them too.
It’s so easy for me to dwell on how hard this situation can be for us. How sad it makes me. But I choose to think positively and take this time as an opportunity to bond with just my boys, which we also need. It gives the girls the opportunity to miss us too and vice versa. Even if we are a family, we all still need a break from each other every so often.
Besides, there are lots of other days when our family is complete, such as last week when the girls came home, and we enjoyed a very lazy, relaxed weekend. Hubby set up our small inflatable pool in our backyard and all three kids spent hours and hours wading about.
They also did some painting and other arts stuff at home. Mostly, they just played, read books and watched TV together. It gave me great joy to see them together in one place. Obviously, to them it doesn’t really matter what our family situation is. It doesn’t matter where they are or what they do. To them, they’re siblings and they love each other, no matter what.
The house feels incomplete now. Quieter than usual. Ziggy has no one else to play with aside from me and hubby, whenever he’s home from work. But we just have to wait patiently. In just a week’s time, our kiddos will be together again. And I’ll be taking another one of these reunion photos. The one below was taken last week when the girls came home. I’m looking forward to that new reunion photo next week.
But, for now, I’ll just enjoy this time with just me and the boys.