We really are all just beautiful messes inside traveling our own journey in life. Most people think we should smother the beautiful mess inside with happy thoughts, etc. I love happy positive thoughts, but honestly I need to know that I’m not the only person who thinks dark and sometimes ugly thoughts. By owning them and being authentic, I believe we can learn to embrace our mess and be beautiful all at the same time. –
Do you know any incessantly happy, shiny people? Those who are always spouting words of happiness and gratitude and always advocating happy vibes? Those who never seem to have any problems? Those whose lives seem to be perfect? Well, I’m not one of those and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I guess that’s why the quote for this week resonates with me.
Just to clarify myself, I don’t have anything against those kinds of people. I don’t have anything against thinking happy thoughts and spreading happy vibes. In fact, I’m all for it. I do those whenever I feel grateful about something or if I or my hubby and kids accomplished something great. Those things are really worth celebrating.
It’s just that there are also occasions when I need to rant. Because if you’re really going to be honest about your life, there will be some things there that you will not be pleased about. Nobody’s life is perfect. Nobody is perfect. We all have some kind of mess in our lives.
You can choose to keep quiet about your mess and that’s completely fine. But there will also be others like me who feel the need to express it. If that is something you can’t deal with, that’s fine with me too. I don’t really care.
Ranting is a way for me to express what I feel when I’m displeased about something. However, unlike what some people might think, I don’t do it to spread negative vibes. I just do it to release the negative from within me. Coz whether you admit it or not, all of us get those dark, negative thoughts once in a while.
It’s like a cleansing ritual for me. Just because I rant doesn’t mean that I rant all the time. It doesn’t mean I don’t see the positive things in my life. Because I know that I am blessed and I am grateful for the blessings. But just because I’m blessed doesn’t mean I no longer have the right to feel pain because that would mean I’m inhuman. I’d rather keep it real and be authentic than be fake in front of others.
Ranting, for me, is part of the process that I need to go through in order to accept the things that I cannot change. It’s part of the process of embracing the mess. I don’t know what it’s like for others but ranting helps me release the bad vibes in order to let in the good. Coz, really, after I do all the complaining, I accept what I need to accept, learn what I need to learn and move on. I don’t wallow in pain for eternity. If I did, I wouldn’t have survived everything I’ve been through in life.
So, I’m embracing the beautiful mess that I am and keeping it real. How about you?